Sunday, August 16, 2009

Which was the greater crime?

Back in February, I last wrote a blog about the blowout basketball game in Dallas where one high school team ran the score up on a weaker team. The losing team received national attention including being treated to a NBA game courtesy of Dallas Mavericks owner Mark Cuban. Why so much attention over some damaged pride?

Two weeks ago, the So Cal Pumas 18u fastpitch softball team was a runaway locomotive, demolishing opponents by a cumulative score of 51-9 and an apparent championship match at the ASA 18A Nationals in Las Vegas. At around 6:20am this train was derailed by a drunk driver who ran a red light and plowed into the team van at an estimated 60mph. Luckily nobody was killed. Four of the girls and the head coach were treated at a local hospital and released. The coach has a broken hand which now has three screws in it. One of the girls had braces which cut open her mouth, on brace poking a hole through her skin under her lip. She has nerve damage that may never go away.

After forfeiting their semifinal game, it appeared that the Pumas were finished. The coach had told the tournament director that they were done because of the coaching staff’s concerns for the girls health playing injured in 100+ degree heat. The girls had other ideas. The persuaded the coach to let them finish what they had started. They were guaranteed third place, even if they would forfeit their loser bracket game. (It’s a double elimination tournament.) Today I interviewed some of the girls and they said even if they lost, they wanted to go down fighting. They didn’t just want to be handed 3rd place and go home. They called the tournament director who then went to the Elyria Sundogs, who had already been told they would be in the championship game. The Sundogs had the option of enforcing the forfeit (The Pumas couldn’t be ready to play until 10:30am, game time was 10:00am.) or allowing the game to start late and give the Pumas a chance to compete. The Sundogs did the right thing.

The Sundog players voted 100% to allow the Pumas to play. In so doing, they not only put a shot at the championship on the line (they had already lost one game early in the tournament and had won 11 straight in the losers bracket,) but also an automatic berth into next year’s championship tournament. The Pumas jumped out to a 4-0 lead. One girl was crying as she rounded the bases after hitting a home run. But the Sundogs came back and won 5-4.

The Pumas had a very strong chance of being ASA National Champions. For many girls this is a once in a lifetime experience. Their chance for stolen from them by a drunk driver. The Pumas have not received any national attention; no professional sports games; no talk show appearances (except on Kidz “n” Sports®,) no public outcry against the driver who slammed into their van. Had he been a spit second earlier he would have hit the side of the van and most assuredly would have killed somebody. The Sundogs have gone quietly back to Ohio having finished in 2nd place. They may have done better in the championship game if they had forced the forfeit and had been a little fresher. Few people are patting them on the back for their fantastic character and positive sportsmanship. As their coach, Duane Sunagel, told his girls, what they did will be remembered for years. Even if only by them and the Pumas.
I’ve tried to contact two professional sports teams to bring this story to their attention. I asked to see if they could provide some tickets for these girls to celebrate what they did accomplish and to honor their determination. One team may be able to do something. The other has not responded at all.

Is this where we are today in our society? Do we value our self-esteem more than justice? When I was a teen if you had a chance to run up 100 points in a basketball game you went for it. You weren’t trying to embarrass the opponent (ok, maybe a little) but there was something special about “turning over” the scoreboard. It was about how good your team was; not how bad your opponent was. And while it might not have been the best sportsmanship, good sportsmanship was everywhere around. Because you know the other team would look to be able to return the favor. And there was the awareness by all around that this was just a game. Your ego would recover from the beating. And you would be fine.

The Pumas cannot “return the favor.” They aren’t going to go out and get drunk and get in a car and go look for that driver to hit him back. 2009 Nationals are over. There are no do-overs. The Tampa Mustangs are the champs. They won fair and square. Short of some evidence that the drunk driver was related to the Tampa coach, (sorry conspiracy theorists), all consciences are clear. The Pumas finished “that close.” We will never know what might have happened and any two teams played. That’s sports.

So what now? How about looking up the Puma’s web site and the Sundogs’ web site and sending both of these teams an email praising the character of all of these girls. If you can’t find their sites send the emails to me and I’ll surely pass them on. The Puma girls I spoke with today are satisfied that they did all that they could; that they left it all on the playing field and were able to walk away from Las Vegas with their heads held high. There are no ill feelings and no regrets. Their original goal was to end up in the top five and they did just that. And the Sundogs. These girls also deserve a lot of praise and honor for their character and sportsmanship. They had no 2nd thoughts about their decision to let the Pumas play. They knew that was the right thing to do. They too are real champions.

I always remember Sue Enquist, the great UCLA softball coach saying that there are only two things you can control; your attitude and your effort. You can’t control the weather, the umpires, or a drunk driver running a red light. The Pumas and the Sundogs would make Enquist proud. They controlled their attitudes and they gave the best efforts that anyone could have asked for.

I hope we can all learn something from these two teams.

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Who Cares What The Score Is?

When we consider any lopsided victory in any sport, we have to consider that there were a lot of factors adding up to the final score. But two factors almost always appear: You have a very talented team against a much overmatched team. Occasionally (on any given day) two fairly equal teams can produce a lopsided mismatch but that is not the norm. So why the huge media outcry over the Dallas Academy vs. Covenant game?

Of course, part of the outcry arises from the fact that Dallas Academy is a school that specializes in working with special needs kids. So the perception one is given is that there is this super team picking on a bunch of weaklings. Somebody kicking the handicapped. There is a little problem with that here.

I am sensitive to those people who have legitimate handicaps or disabilities. I really am. But I don’t like to see disabilities used as an excuse. I don’t think the school is doing that but some in the media sure have. Why do I say this? Because a few days later the boys team from Dallas Academy beat the Covenant Boys team. Are handicaps only applicable to girls?

And why do parents choose to go crazy in either direction? One article had a parent complaining that Covenant was just throwing up 3 point shots. If I was losing that bad, I would WANT them to throw up three pointers…..They’re harder to make. The problem I would have had was when Covenant was putting on a full court press, stealing the ball and making layups. But is it still that bad? At worse, it was poor judgment and poor sportsmanship.

Every young player on a good team at some time or another has one of those hyper team moments where they have everything going their way, usually against a weaker team, and they start thinking “let’s score 100,” or something like that. Nobody thinks that they may be hurting someone else’s feelings. They just want to “turn over the scoreboard,” or something like that. They want to send the message that on this day THEY are the best team. But sometimes that exhuberence gets carried away and trash talk ensues and then things can get out of hand.
Should the Covenant coach “clear the bench” and use all of his players? Absolutely! That is the one part of this that I totally agree with. Knowing that there was an obvious mismatch based on previous records and games, this is that game where everyone should get to play. Should he have been fired for not apologizing? I don’t know. That’s a school policy thing. But I can understand part of where he may be coming from.

In today’s society, we seem to want everything to be equal. We want moderation. And just like James Caan in the original Rollerball, we don’t want superstars. We don’t want people to be real successful because that means someone else must lose. Where did we get this message? How stupid is it to be thinking in such a manner?

Dallas Academy can definitely be proud of their girls for not wanting to quit. That should be proud of the attitude that they’ve instilled in these girls to give the best effort they could even under the bleakest of situations. Actually I’m a little confused by Dallas Academy’s actions. Why, after having said how proud you were of your girls, would you cancel the rest of your league games? What message are you sending there? I can see perhaps canceling the Covenant game because there could be some bad blood between players or parents. But why the rest of the League games? Your girls didn’t quit but now you did.

Sports are just that…competition. There is a time for just playing for fun and there’s a time when you keep score. Having coached at a small school I know how talent levels can fluctuate on a year to year basis. I’ve seen schools be almost unbeatable one year and within a season or two they are the worse team in their league. But so what? Sports is to teach our young players that you do the best you can in every situation. Attitude and Effort are the only things you can control. You didn’t have parents screaming that David shouldn’t have been battling against Goliath did you? Some days you win and some days you lose. The worse score I know of in organized sports was on October 7th, 1916 when Georgia Tech beat Cumberland 222-0. Cumberland’s guys were proud that they strategized a way to keep Tech from scoring 229. These guys even got together 40 years later in sort of a reunion to reminisce about the event. Nobody was crying poor sportsmanship there.

http://gtalumni.org/Publications/magazine/spr98/div11.html

We should be teaching our kids that their value as human beings has nothing to do with the score of a game. It has to do with the effort they put into the game. As soon as we can get back to that basic we’ll quit worrying about what the score is. Would Dallas Academy's girls felt any better if the other team only scored 30 but was playing on their knees? Give your best effort. One day you will be a winner.

Monday, February 2, 2009

Tragedy Hurts. But is this a crime?

For the second part of the three part blog, I am going to discuss the issue of the young man’s death in Kentucky. Please understand: I believe this event is an absolute tragedy. I doubt that there is anyone who would disagree with that. My sympathy goes to the family of Max Gilpen. I know how bad I would feel if something happened to my daughter. There is no question of the sadness of such an event.

What I do question is whether or not the coach should be charged with a crime, any crime, much less negligent homicide. It seems by all accounts that the coach is taking Max’s death almost as hard as the family of the athlete is. Again, I know I feel bad any time one of my players gets hurt. How many times worse would it be if a player died? It is something that I would wish for no coach. It is something that will stay with that coach for the rest of his life. But was he responsible for the young man’s passing?

As I pointed out in my previous blog, there are many questions surrounding the event. There are accusations that the Dad, who was present when Max collapsed, changed his story about the surrounding events. There were some that said the coaches denied the players water. Others said that was not the case. I do know that we are a most litigious society and that we want somebody, anybody held responsible anytime something bad happens. But I think we need to draw a line. We have a shortage of good coaches today in high school sports. High School coaches, as with almost any segment of youth sports, make very little money for coaching. Some are teachers but the stipends for most coaches are relatively small. As an example, for a softball season (roughly 3 ½ months) the average pay for a walk-on coach is between $2,000 and $3,000. Some pay more. Many schools will allow the booster club if there is one, to contribute money to pay a coach more. But it has to go through the school. Some schools do not allow this. Many schools don’t have or don’t allow booster clubs.

With this in mind, how many people do you know are going to want to take such a job knowing the risks that may hang over you should something happen to one of your players? Furthermore, as the lawsuits continue to mount, it may force schools to cut back on sports programs for the students, citing the increased liability issues. And of course, I am biased. But I constantly wonder about the ever increasing judgments in various liability and wrongful death lawsuits and I ask, how much is enough? No amount of money will bring back a player, a worker, a family member. A person cannot be replaced by money. Some point to the need to “punish” the offending party so “send a message.” But are we sending the right message?

I will be watching the trial of the Kentucky coach as I am sure many in the youth sports world will. This situation could have far reaching ramifications. On the surface I wonder why the coach was charged with a crime. I have heard the same comment from several people already. There are too many potentially contributing factors that were out of the coach’s control. The student had been taking supplements which are known to dehydrate the body. Even if he wasn’t taking them at the time the effects may still have been with him. He was taking a medication that I have been told is basically a strong amphetamine. How might that drug have affected the young man’s body? No autopsy was performed. How do we know if there may have been other factors involved? And why did it take months to decide whether or not to file charges?

The bottom line here is that a student athlete died on the field of sport. That by itself is a tragedy. We should be seeking ways to prevent the occurrence of such events in the future. But to fix this or any other potentially damaging event, we must quit pointing fingers at everyone else, take a step back, and say “what could I have done?” “Could I have done something to impact this situation? Or, was it just the occurrence of life. I believe that when God calls us we go home. There are no appeals. No second guessing. He calls, you go. We as humans don’t understand when such a young life is ended so early. But sometimes it just is. Life just is. We recover. We learn. We move on. Sometimes there’s nobody to blame. And sometimes, that’s the most difficult realization we have to accept.

Please say a prayer for Max Gilpen’s family; for the coaching staff of the school; and for all others involved directly or indirectly in this tragedy. And may we pray that we can learn something that will help us all do what is right in the future for our young athletes.

Friday, January 30, 2009

Tragedy and Tribulation in Youth Sports: Why do these things happen?

Two events have occurred within the last two weeks that have provided a whole refrigerator full of food for consumption by any youth sports fan, player, coach, or administrator. There is so much to consider I am actually going to write this blog in three parts.

Of course, the two events I’m talking about are the blowout girl’s basketball game in Texas, and the high school football coach being charged with negligent homicide in Kentucky. The first event has created media frenzy with more storm than Hurricane Katrina. The second event is a tragedy but is also an event that could lead to huge changes in youth sports policies. It has also amplified our need as a society to blame someone whenever someone is hurt or killed, or even when we don’t get what we want. There are many parts of each side of each story that have merit and seemingly an equal number of issues on each side that do not have merit.
In case you somehow have missed either one of these stories, here are a couple of links to each one just to fill you in on the basics of each story.

Kentucky Coach Pleads Not Guilty in Player's Heat Death
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,483027,00.html

School Seeks to Forfeit 100-0 Win
http://highschool.rivals.com/content.asp?CID=903780

In one story, a high school football coach has been charged with negligent homicide (some consider this to mean “murder,”) in the death of one of his players from apparent heat related issues. In the 47 years from 1960 to 2007 there have been 114 reported heat stroke deaths according to the Fox News articles. And while there were many lawsuits, never, I said NEVER, has a coach been charged with a crime from his or her actions. And in this case, there are a number of reasons to question why this coach has been charged with a crime.

In the other story it is basically one really good team beat a less talented team….really bad. Like, 100-0. The team that lost is from a school that works with children who have various issues such as learning disabilities, ADHD, and other special needs kids. Both schools are Christian schools, which of course, brings out all those who don’t believe in God who love to post wisecracks knocking those who do. The coach of the winning school has been fired for refusing to apologize. And the losing team has now canceled the rest of their league games.

So to finish today’s blog, I will basically list the stories and the questions I have surrounding the events listed. Then in my next two blogs, I will address those questions. In the meantime you can think about the questions I pose as well and see if we come up with the same answers. Dr. Gerald Coy will be my guest on Monday’s show of Kidz n Sports airing at 3:00 PM to 4:00 PM California time on the internet at www.AdrenalineRadio.com. We are in the process of producing a collaboration of articles into a book “Healthy Kidz n Sports.” These two events have many lessons both mental and physical that we can learn from.

First, in the tragic case of 15 year old Max Gilpin’s death during football practice in Kentucky:
1. Why was there not an autopsy performed? This young man took nutritional supplements and some medications. How do we know that this did not play a major part in his death? I used to run Cross Country in Arizona in 100 degree heat. 12 sets of wind sprints in 94 degree heat index isn’t something I’d worry too much as far as being that dangerous for a healthy 15 year old.
2. Why was the head coach charged with a crime and not the assistant coaches?
3. The father of the boy was present when his son collapsed. Why would there be no responsibility on his part for the boy’s welfare? And did he change his story?
4. Did the coach or coaches refuse to allow the players to have water? One report says “yes” another says “no.”
5. Where do we draw a line between what is a “tragedy” and what is a “crime?”

Second, in the case of the basketball blowout:

1. Why did the Covenant Coach not freely substitute his players when the score was so lopsided?
2. If the Covenant Coach was “running up” the score, why did his team only score 12 points in the 4th quarter?
3. Are learning disabilities only found in girls? The Dallas Academy boy’s basketball team beat Covenant Christian School. While I try to be somewhat sensitive about somebody’s handicaps, I also don’t like to see a disability used as an excuse when no excuse is needed.
4. What is the appropriate way to coach or play when such an obvious mismatch exists? Is it more embarrassing to a player to lose 100-0 or to lose 40-10 and know that the other team played “on their knees?”
5. After the Dallas Academy officials stated how proud they were of their girls and how they didn’t give up, they canceled the rest of their league games. Why?
6. Should the Covenant Coach have been fired?
7. Do we place too much importance in the score of a game and not enough on how it is played?

Feel free to post your comments below. I will publish the second part of this blog on Monday, February 2nd, discussing the Kentucky event and the third part of this blog on Wednesday, February 4th discussing the Texas basketball game.

Why nothing on Tuesday? It’s my 19th Wedding Anniversary. I must take my wife out for a nice dinner.

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Starting 2009 – Another Year, Another Opportunity

WOW…..!!!!

Another year gone, another year upon us. Where did the time go? How many games, how many practices, how many laps, crunches?
But the most important two questions we must ask: Did we grow as a player, as a person? And did we have fun?

Whether you answered the above questions yes or no, we must not settle on our past laurels. It is now time to make our goals (if you haven’t already done so) for 2009. Notice, I said goals, not resolutions. Resolutions are a good start. But if they aren’t turned into goals, well, we know the traditional lifespan of a resolution.

Take a look at what you achieved last year. Don’t judge whether you achieved a little or a lot. Whether you rated your accomplishments at a 1 or a 10 that is not a finishing point. That is your starting point for 2009.

Let’s say you had a pretty unproductive, or even a bad year. You didn’t play well. You struggled with grades. Perhaps you had some troubled relationships. You absolutely must remember one thing: This is only one year of your life. Now you may be saying to yourself “Coach Mike, if that’s only one year, what do I have to look forward to for the next 5, 10, or 20 years?” “I don’t want to live my life if it’s all going to be like this last year.”

Well, the good news is that your future does not have to be so bleak. In reality, it probably won’t. For a young person, this is one of the most difficult things to understand; that one year is just a very small part of your life. You are still learning about life. You’re probably going to make some mistakes. Each person is different. Things can be changed for the better.

But guess what? It’s up to YOU! If you are not satisfied with last year, with where your life is right now, you have the power to change it. But you must be willing to deal with that little word….”change.”

It has been said that a fool is a person who is very dissatisfied with the last five years of their life, but doesn’t want to change anything, and yet expects the next five years to be different.

So let’s try following these steps to have a better 2009:

1) Make a list of the POSITIVE things, the blessings in your life. These may be people in your life; it may be something you accomplished. But the first step to success is to realize that there is POSITIVE in your life. It may be a little, or it may be a lot. MAKE A LIST!

2) Now make a second list of the things you would like to change in your life. Don’t be vague. Write out specifically what you want to change. For example: “I want to get a B in Biology instead of a D.” “I want to raise my batting average by 30%.”

3) Now go down that second list and by each item you want to change, write down a specific action you will take to change that item. For example: “I want to get a B so I will study more. I will study for at least 1 hour extra per night.” “I want to raise my batting average by 30% so I will go to the batting cages twice a week.”

If you followed these steps guess what you have just done: You have set goals for 2009. Take your list out every day, and read it. And each week take a check of how much progress you are making. Not making progress? Perhaps you made an unreasonable goal. If you see you are not making progress in one area, go back and look at the original item, the action planned, and the goal. Perhaps you were not following up with the action you needed to take. Maybe you only studied one extra hour per week. Be accountable to yourself. Get your parents to help you. (Yeah, you have to trust your parents once in a while.) But you can make the changes you need to have a more successful year.

If you need someone to help you be accountable feel free to email me at coachmike@kidznsports.com. I will be happy to help you with your goal setting and accountability. But keep in mind, honesty and accountability go hand in hand. You must be honest with yourself first.

Oh yes, and for those of you who had a very successful year. You too need to not sit on your laurels. Enjoy your accomplishments. But don’t think you are finished. I’ve seen many people have one or two great years and then sat back and figured everything else would just gravitate to them. Wrong! You need to keep building on your success. You may not show as much improvement because of where you are starting. But you must keep moving forward. Again, it is only one year in your life. And remember this: If you are still awed by what you accomplished yesterday, then you must not have done anything yet today.

Best wishes for 2009.